How To Deal With Failure, Rejection and Disappointment

The real "F" word? Failure.
It's the word that keeps many artists up at night. What happens if the film, music or other project you are working on falls short of your expectations? What if you don't get into Sundance or for that matter ANY film festival? What if you give a concert and no one shows up?

Face it, Folks, Failure and its friends Rejection and Disappointment are a fact. A true artist needs to know how to deal with them. Here are a few thoughts on the subject.

1. At least you tried. It takes guts and determination to anything artistic, so the fact that you even tried is worth merit. Think about all the other people you know who are constantly saying "I want to do this" or "I have an idea for" and know that you are a DOER not a talker.

2. It is a learning experience. No matter how much it hurts, there is always something to be learned from failure. In fact, a recent New York Time article posits that very hypothesis. But you don't need to be a genius (or even read that lengthy article) to know it's true. If, instead of feeling sorry for yourself, you simply ask "what lessons did I take away" - you will certainly come away with a list of items that will undoubtably help you at a future time in life.

3. EVERYONE fails! Yes it's true!!! All those celebrities you see airbrushed and smiling on the cover of your favorite magazine? All failures, each and every one of them. The old adage, "there is no such thing as an overnight success" is true, if you look beneath the surface. Read more about your favorite artist and you will discover that they have failed just like you.

This man suffered from severe depression for many years, and then...

4. NEVER give up!!!! The REAL failures in life? Those people who let a few stumbling blocks along the way cause them to abandon their dreams and goals. The number one thing homeopathic nurses say their dying patients confess to them before they die is "I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me." 

Your life is not a movie or a book - there are chapters, stories, and events of course, but NO ONE KNOWS HOW IT WILL END. What you may have thought is the defining moment of your existence, was perhaps a minor setback, that in the end, turns out to have led you to something much more valuable. I too had a long bout with depression, and I was able to harness all the pain and disappointment in my life and make an indie film. 

You can't know what will happen to you unless you have the courage to take that journey.

I will leave you with an image that I saw on a billboard, that, oddly, and inspiringly, was a PSA:

Advertising Budget - $1 Million Dollars or $0

When a new movie comes out, whether it is the Mega Tent Pole "Thor" or the low budget indie "Insiduous" - one thing that they have in common is advertising budgets in the millions of dollars. Billboards, bus stops, TV commercials, radio, print, talk shows, web advertising, magazine articles, etc., all magically coordinated so that the weeks leading up to the release, awareness is pretty damn high.

That's what millions of dollars, and a coordination of publicists, media buyers, and advertising companies looks like.

You're supposed to put garbage on the streets!

How can you compete with that with your indie film? You can't.

In the perspective of the global film industry, your film's budget and advertising is a proverbial drop in the bucket.

Naturally, the more money you spend on your film, the less your chances are for a recoup.

For every $10,000 you spend in advertising - a formidable sum for you and I - you now have to generate 1,000 more sales/profits at $10 per VOD, disc, or download sold, each of which has its own commission structure.

Now, I am not much of a math (or advertising) guy, but spending $10,000 to get 1,000 people to buy something, seems like a drop in the bucket for such a task. (Recently, as an experiment, I spent $100 on Facebook advertising to get something like 9 "Likes" and zero sales. At that rate, to get 1,000 would be, well, YOU do the math!) And we're not even counting the budget of your film, which was probably in the tens-of-thousands of dollars as well. So we are already talking about a serious chunk of change.

So what do you do? Give up? Of course not!

No Money? No Problem!

Spend $0.

That's right. $0. In the the advertising world, your $10,000 is so close to zero anyways, you might as well keep in your bank account.

Here are a few ideas that cost nothing.

1) Become your own publicist. Publicists, especially good ones, can charge thousands of dollars a month. And if they're REALLY good - with an excellent Rolodex (do those even exist anymore?) - you probably can't get them or afford them. There are loads of so-called publicists on the 'Net pining for your indie dollars. Why pay them for what you can - and already have been - doing all along? If you don't know how to write a press release, there are plenty of websites to walk you through it.

One important tip: Take your middle name and the street you grew up on and - voila - instant publicist. My publicist for The Great Intervention is Fred Rainey. He has his own email address and I list my phone number. If someone calls asking for Fred, I know it's related to the movie.

I'm not saying there is not an art to finding your film's niche, writing an engaging press release, and shepherding it out to the media, I'm just saying you might as well do it yourself. Most likely, you came up with the idea for your film in the first place, right? Who knows more about it than you? Focus not only on the film, but perhaps the making of the film like I did (surely there are some interesting obstacles you encountered that others can benefit or enjoy learning from).

Need contacts and places to send your press release? The Internet will help you. Set up your Google alerts for key words related to your film, as well as "indie film" "DIY filmmaker" "film festival" "micro budget" etc. In your inbox every day will be a list of websites/articles that deal with these things.

2) Make the talk show rounds. Sure, you're probably not going to get on Jay Leno, or even Conan. But in your network I'm sure there are DOZENS of people that are making blogs and or podcasts. Just look at your Facebook page. Sure, they may not have huge ratings, but it is a good start. Not only can you get some video and-or audio soundbites for your EPK, but it's good practice in case one of the big shows do indeed come a-knockin'.

3) Exploit your actors. Actors are hungry - they are all trying to become famous. And you gave them a part in your movie! Most likely, because of this very fact, you won't need to "exploit" them - just give them the opportunity to promote the film. Work with them to set up screenings and make sure they are available for interviews. They may have friends that have podcasts/blogs too, so make sure they get a copy of the press release or EPK for their own use. Find out if their backstory can be of use in the publicity of the movie.

4) Return to your hometown. Everybody has a group of people they grew up with, and in this age of Facebook, the odds are good that you are in contact with them. Make an event and show your movie! The local paper likes nothing better than a story like "Local Filmmaker Returns Home to Screen Indie Movie." Perhaps you can coordinate with an alumni group or others to donate a portion of the proceeds to a local charity.

5) Pray for virility. Nobody knows how or why things go viral - that's the wonder of the Internet. Rebecca Black hoped she would become famous, but no reasonable amount of marketing could have generated A HUNDRED AND TWENTY ONE MILLION VIEWS on YouTube.

This is where the playing field is "leveled" between you and the blockbuster. Create short clips of your movies - not just a preview, perhaps, but maybe a controversial/hilarious scene. Keep throwing them out there and see what works. You don't have access to Neilson Ratings or expensive marketing analysts, but you DO have access to your YouTube view count as well as some other interesting insights, including users' attention span across your video! Find other video sites to post it to, and use keywords related to your topic.

And then pray something hits Numa Numa land.

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So there you go. I'm not saying doing this is better than hiring a publicist or spending a gazillion dollars on billboards. But these are some things you can do own your own without maxing the credit cards that may give you some satisfactory results. At least you tried.